So, here’s the deal. It’s YOUR life!

I really got to thinking today about how much allow our focus to move around…many times to every and anything that is NOT what we truly need to be focused on.

For just one little second, a young woman took her “eyes off the road” and landed herself in a car accident. She is fine. She will continue to move forward in her life and leave for college this fall, but she has been set back emotionally, financially and with respect to her confidence as a driver.

Think of it this way. You are in line to meet your favorite author who is doing a book signing. The line is long, but you are really excited and have been waiting for this opportunity.

As you wait, you begin to get bored. Your attention is caught by a new book, on the sales table…a book that you have been wanting to read for a long time! You step out of the line to go take a look…you figure, what’s the big deal, you will simply hop back in line…after all, there are not that many people behind you.

You browse through the book and realize that it not really something that you are interested in so you go to the end of the line and continue waiting. Just as you are getting close, at about the spot where you had been standing earlier, they make an announcement that the book signing has concluded and that your FAVORITE author has to leave to make it to another book signing!

We do it all the time.

We get bored.
We get frustrated.
We want instantaneous gratification.
We don’t like to be waiting.
We don’t like long lines.
We are impatient!

And as we feel these things, we allow our eyes to leave OUR road! We lose our focus and sometimes, accidents happen!

You will recover from most accidents…but there are almost always unintended consequences. You don’t know what those consequences are until they happen, but they are usually ones that cause us to suffer emotionally, financially and threaten our esteem and confidence.

If you are struggling to find your road or having trouble keeping your eyes on it, get support. Don’t lose the opportunity to meet your FAVORITE author! Stay the course and your WILL GET what you desire!

I am here for you!

“TO LIVE THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS YOU HAVE TO HAVE THE FINANCIAL MEANS TO CREATE IT AND THE TIME FREEDOM TO ENJOY IT! ” Francine Allaire, Dr. Robert Quint

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DARE TO RECOGNIZE THIS ONCE IN A LIFETIME, LIFE-CHANGING OPPORTUNITY

LOOK YOUR BEST, SECURE YOUR FUTURE AND THE FUTURE OF THOSE YOU LOVE!

Let me ask you:

What would your life look like today if you had been invited to join any of the leading Network Marketing companies at the ground level, I mean seriously AT THE VERY TOP?

Recently my husband and I were blessed with the opportunity to join Nucerity at the very top. We are offering the same incredible opportunity to get involved right now, with us, at the very top !

#1 Income Earners in a multitude of companies all share the same story, they all GOT IN EARLY, TIMING is everything and by YOU getting involved NOW means that IT IS YOUR TIME to shine, to finally serve the masses, to offer your gifts to the world and to enjoy financial freedom.

Seriously, think about what your life could look like a year from now by you getting involved at THE VERY TOP, benefiting from the most lucrative compensation plan in the industry and enjoying looking years younger?

Imagine having the opportunity to create your own economy in these challenging times and assisting people you deeply care about to do the same!

And if this opportunity is not well suited for you, it may be perfect for a friend, a family member or a colleague. Pass it forward, be a blessing to someone. You will be doing them a huge favor. Many people are looking for hope right now!

For more information, visit: https://www.nucerity.com/101381

What Makes this Opportunity so Unique:

1. TIMING is Everything in life – Being at the very top is a once in a lifetime opportunity,

2. the MOST Lucrative Compensation Plan in the Industry and

3. the Unbelievable Quality of the Product (when men and women start using it, they can’t believe the results (in just two weeks you will look younger and your skin will be clear and so beautiful that you’ll get addicted to it – trust me I did and so did my husband).

For a sneak peak, please join us (and invite your friends) for a 30 minute Business Opportunity Call

MON/TUES/THUR 6:00pm PST / 9:00pm EST
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Dial-in: 1-218-486-1400 / Passcode 12823 #

24 hr Recorded Overview

One Minute Presentation Calls (507) 726-3721
Product Call (507) 726-3769
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The product and the company are not new – the product used to be sold solely through dermatologists (hence its quality)- the product and company are reputable and well established) – what’s new is selling the product through a direct selling model

I would love nothing more than having the chance to make a difference in your life. My mission, passion and desire is to inspire and empower women, like you, to live more daring, passionate and abundant lives (and financial freedom is such a big part of that plan). So this opportunity is in total alignment with that.

But first, I had to overcome my own limiting beliefs because I never got involved with this kind of opportunity until now. Pearl of Wisdom: Dare to Recognize a Once in a Lifetime Opportunity when It Knocks especially if it doesn’t look like the kind of opportunity you usually get involved with.

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Not convinced yet, please do YourSELF a favor and read on:

This is all about YOU!
(You can read below what propelled me to get involved – I’ve never been involved in networking marketing or direct selling before but this opportunity was too great to ignore, plus I love the product and would use it whether I would make any money at it).

Let me ask you. Do you have any gaps in your life?
On a scale of 1 to 10

How important to you is your Appearance?
If 10 = You spend all discretionary dollar you have on your appearance
If 1 = You’re lucky if you shower once a week

Where are you now on that scale?

• Are you enjoying how you are aging?
• How are the sun and the weather treating your skin?
• Does your lifestyle show up on your face and on your skin?

How important is your Wealth to you?

If 10 = You have total financial freedom
If 1 = You can barely afford to pay your bills and you have a lot of anxiety and concerns about money.

Where are you now on that scale?

• Do you have financial security?
• Are you happy with the amount of money you are making?
• Do you have peace of mind knowing that you have the financial resources to fully support yourself and your loved ones?

How important is your TIME FREEDOM?
If 10 = You have total time freedom, you can choose how you spend your time.
If 1 = You are feeling totally overwhelmed – it feels like your life is spinning out of control

Where are you now on that scale?

• Do you have time to enjoy what matters most to you – your friends, your hobbies, your work?
• Do you have the ability to make your own schedule?
• Are you in a position to tell your boss when you’re going to take a vacation?
• Do you get up every day excited and eager to start your day?
• Do you love your life?
I am going to let you decide for yourself where you are at and what matters most to you.

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In any relationship, whether a spouse, child, friend, colleague…we develop a pattern of interacting with them.

Often we fall into a “role” or a comfortable way of being with them. Even if this “role” does not serve us or honor who we really are and what we really want.

Even after divorce, we often continue to play the “role” that we have always played with our ex’s.

We may say that it’s “not true” and that we are “different”, but the pull of that old pattern continues to call to us.

It may be that falling into the old pattern and “role” is simply a way of connecting with your ex?

A way of engaging with him…even it is unpleasant and volatile.

Is it possible that you fall into this pattern?

Step 1: Limit conversation.

The first step to breaking the old patterns between you and your ex is to begin to implement email as your primary means of communication. It is not necessary for you to have conversations with him, rather, any exchange of information can be done easily through email and with less emotion.

Step 2: Determine your own values.

One of the best things you can do for yourself as you begin your journey through divorce is to identify what your core values are. There are many ways to do this and exercises that can help you walk through the process but working with a professional is the most effective ways to do it correctly. Once you know your core values, any future choices and decisions will be driven by them.

Step 3: Honor what you want.

Often it can be intimidating for women to articulate clearly what they want. Many of my clients, and myself included, “caved” to what their husbands want or what they think others would want them to do. It is critical that early on in the journey of divorce that you begin to get comfortable not only with what you want, but articulating it to those in your life.

Step 4: Identify your desired outcome.

If you feel that you are falling victim to an old pattern or “role” in your relationship with your ex, take some time to begin to explore and gain clarity about what you ultimately want to happen. Your desired outcome is what you want to come out of the conversation or exchange. Frequently we forget about what the result is that we want, and rather, react to the emotion of the interaction. Focus on your desired outcome and you will be more likely to develop your new pattern.

Step 5: Remember that it is about you.

If you are clear about what you want, you have identified your core values and you keep your eye on your desired outcome, then the likelihood of falling prey to old patterns diminishes. This is now about YOU….the new YOU!

It is hard for those around us to accept change. Your change in pattern may throw your ex off balance and force him to react differently. Allow for there to be time and space for him to adjust to the new you.

Change takes time…for both you and those around you.

Stay committed to the process of changing your pattern, and you will be amazed at what might happen!

So…what do you want?

Do you know what you really want? You “say” you do, but do you REALLY know?

And if you do know, are you ready to face your fear and do it anyway? To make it happen?

You can make all the excuses you want…but the knowledge, power and tools to get EVERYTHING you want are already within you! IMAGINE THAT!

Let me ask you a couple of questions:

1. What do you spend your time doing and focusing on that does not serve you or move you towards what you want?

2. Are there things that you fear or don’t want to experience but you often find yourself thinking about anyway and more than you should? How much time do you spend thinking about the things you DON’T want?

3. What activities do you do on a regular basis that you really don’t have to? Things that you don’t have a sense of real purpose about and that don’t give you an outcome or result that you want and yet you find yourself doing anyway?

If you have answered these questions honestly, then I predict that a significant portion of your time, and probably your dollars, are spent on doing things that:

• don’t move you towards what you REALLY want

• are a result of “excuses” to avoid FEAR of doing those things that will move you closer to your desires

• fill you with a “temporary” pleasure that ultimately leaves you feeling empty and unfulfilled and farther away from what you want

• do not reflect those things that matter most to you and that you are PASSIONATE about…that have MEANING to them

Am I right?

I am not happy to be right, but my guess is that the largest percentage of your time and resources are spent on those things that do not and will not get you to your new and extraordinary life!

There are many reasons for this…some that you may know and many that deserve exploration.

When you are REALLY ready to align your time, resources and mindset with what you KNOW you want…then you will find it will all come flooding through the door!

And I am here to support you to finding this alignment!

Here is just one exercise that you can do get the juices flowing and give you some clarity around what you really, truly DO want!

Complete the following sentence no less than 10 times to reflect what you believe you WANT in your new life:

When my life is ideal, I am…

When you are done, you should have a list of the approximately 10 most things that REALLY MATTER to you…that you identify as giving you passion and fulfillment.

Take your time and be honest!

Once you complete this, you will be ready to begin the work that is necessary to align your focus, time and resources on CREATING a life that fulfills you!

As I always say…you are not alone and are not meant to do it alone! Whether it is me, a therapist or another source of support…create your own “team” to help you get to where you want to go!

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening. You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter). and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and its OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of newly found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop bitching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as they are, and to over look their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn’t weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with, and in the process you learn to go with your instincts. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important because of the man or woman on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love. and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms. Just to make you happy. And, you learn that ‘alone’ does not mean lonely.

And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you “stack up.” You also stop working so hard at putting feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs.

You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK. . . and that it is your right to want things that you want. and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands. You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less. And you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his or her touch. and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul, so you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve. and that much of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance.

You also learn that no one can do it all alone and its OK to risk asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time: FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state – the ego.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself. by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

~Virginia Swift~